​THERE ARE REASONS WE BECOME WHO WE BECOME. 

The ways we love, pull away, care for others, avoid difficult feelings, become anxious or angry, hold on too tightly or let go too quickly often developed within particular relationships and circumstances. At some point, they probably made sense and were ways of coping or protecting ourselves in the best way we could at the time. 

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HUMAN BEINGS ARE CONTRADICTORY BY NATURE. 

We can love and resent at the same time, need someone and feel afraid of them, hope for something while also expecting it to fall apart. We might miss people who have hurt us, feel angry at those we care about or notice ourselves becoming the very things we once said we never would. Therapy is about making room for all these contradictions and working to understand them. 

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THERAPY IS A PROCESS OF SELF-DISCOVERY. 

I think of therapy as a process of helping people hear themselves more clearly. Another person can sometimes help us notice things we cannot see alone. We all have blind spots, assumptions, familiar stories and ways of understanding ourselves that can become difficult to question without the perspective of another person.

 

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THERAPY IS RELATIONAL.

We come to know ourselves through being known by others. The relationships we have had throughout our lives influence how we see ourselves, what we expect from others and how we move through the world. Therapy offers an opportunity to become curious about these patterns and the ways they continue to shape us in the present.

 

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FREEDOM COMES THROUGH UNDERSTANDING.

Ultimately, I hope therapy can create greater freedom from believing that "this is just who I am" when there may be a much richer story beneath the surface. I believe therapy isn’t really about changing who we are so much as helping us understand who we’ve had to become, so that we have more choice about how we would like to live moving forward.